I like to keep the conversation around ‘self care’ alive, not only with my clients but also with my colleagues and supervisees. The counselling and caring professions can suck our energy and if one does not take good care of themselves, this can become depleting overtime – It can really take it’s toll on physical and emotional well-being.
I read a quote which said ‘Self care isn’t selfish or over-indulgent. It’s not a luxury – it is essential’. It’s so true. Self care should not be something we treat ourselves with from time to time, nor should it be something we just squeeze in, it should be a part of our daily lives.
Having talked to a few people about this some feel ‘bad’ about trying to prioritise their own needs, others might feel ‘too busy’ for self care. I think people can struggle to balance work and other commitments which leaves little time and energy to focus on the ‘self’ (even though the desire to do so is there).
Sadly, if self care is neglected over time, this can lead to a general dissatisfaction of life, and physical and emotional problems. We might begin to feel disconnected from our own very selves. In more extreme situations this might lead to ‘burn out’ and even compassion fatigue.
Stop to reflect, is this happening to you at work or home? Back to back appointments…skipping lunch…deadlines to meet, so you’re working really hard… emergencies to deal with… little rest…?!
Think about how you can take the responsibility of your well-being. Where can you add in some time for ‘self care’. A 10 minute walk…eating lunch away from your desk…saying no when you have too much on…leaving work at work…2 minutes of mindfulness breathing in-between appointments…!
Small changes can make a big difference.
We can’t give anything to others if we have nothing left to give. We must give to ourselves first; where it all begins.