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Do you need more Self Love in your life?

So,  a friend of mine came over last week for a catch up -as we got talking I started to feel that she needed some energy healing to help her shift some of her emotional blocks which seemed to be manifesting in her digestive system; as she was experiencing pain and discomfort in her stomach area. She seemed stuck in relation to a particular relationship.  

Pay attention to your body

Our bodies communicate to us unresolved emotions that have become blocked within us and that need releasing in order to heal before we can move on. I began to feel that my friend needed to ‘let go’ of something and ‘digest’ (work through) it, and it felt like ‘fear’ was stopping her.

Temporary Fix

She’d already recently recognised patterns of co-dependency in her life. This is when we rely on external factors to create a sense of our identity. Our happiness becomes defined by others approval which gives us reassurance. This might be through attaching ourselves to relationships with others, or through behaviours that become a bit addictive i.e. relying on substances (cigarettes/drugs/alcohol), overworking, excessive exercise, spending money for no reason – all these things give us a quick fix, ‘validate’ us for a short period of time, but don’t get to the core issue.

What happens if the other person can’t ‘validate’ you or give you the reassurance you need in that moment? This causes anxiety, insecurities and creates doubt . 

The Ugly Bits 

In the absence of the external factors (which are just like putting on a temporary plaster on a wound) you will be left with YOURSELF, your INNER FEELINGS and your INNER THOUGHTS.  This can make people feel really uncomfortable to the point it can feel scary for some. It’s coming face to face with yourself, including the ugly bits perhaps; regret, guilt, shame, insecurities – all these unresolved emotions that get stuck deeply with you, cause blocks to true happiness- but those that you CAN free yourself from. 

Be Honest With Yourself

It was not long until my friend was on my Reiki Couch and I gave her a full treatment, the energy in the room shifted – it felt like a breakthrough, from ‘avoidance’ to ‘acceptance’.  Upon reflection my friend knew that the only way to move through her current stuckness was to re-connect to herself and learn to love herself and not seek this from others. She kind of knew this anyway, but our meeting gave her confirmation.  

Ready To Dive In?

Sometimes we need to just dive right in. We spend far too much time dipping our toes in, or just treading water, contemplating change but not doing much about it and this can be very tiring and dissatisfying. Of course you may feel you need tools to help you once you have dived in to keep you safe, so the preparation is important too.  

I Get It

Reflecting back on my own journey where I had to do exactly this I can really relate to the avoidance, the to-ing and fro-ing, the conflict between ‘shoulds and musts’ versus ‘true desires, inline with the true self’, compromising for the benefit of others, becoming submissive and ‘losing my voice’ to keep the peace (as most women somehow slip into doing) -but it surprised me that it happened to me. 

Deep down I knew that I was so much more, with the potential of even more but in order to achieve this I may have to leave certain relationships and situations behind, as if these did not evolve with me they would continue to hold me back.

The only way is ‘in’

In 2017, I had to turn more inward than I ever have had to (and trust me as therapists we go ‘within’ by default – but this felt like another ‘layer’). I had to be really honest with myself, get deeper into meditation to gain clarity – figure out who I was again. I realised I was ‘hiding’ and instead allowing particular others to ‘mould’ me into what they wanted – I was like when did this happen? Some things are so subtle, it is hard to recognise them.  

Change Your Core Beliefs 

The underlying realisation for me during this (what ended up being a  massive and accelerated awakening) was to begin to believe that  ‘I deserve happiness’ and that ‘I do matter’. By believing it, you begin to allow it – you accept it, you shift your energy and anything that does not match your vibration does not feel right anymore.  

That’s Where SELF LOVE Comes Into it

How can you reach this point? By learning to love, honor and respect yourself – raise your vibration – realise that ‘Love’ is actually the bottom line. I know this might sound really cheesy – I get that! We have been conditioned by society in such a way that the concept of Love and Self Love is somewhat distorted, but it is actually so simple and pure. 

21 Day SELF LOVE Challenge – Starts 1st January 2018

After my friend left, I was even more inspired to get the message of Self Love out there, experiment with the concept, get a sense of how people see it. So I decided to create a 21 Day Self Love Challenge in Januray, starting from the 1st.

Why not enter 2018 exploring Self Love -by learning to love yourself; being kind and compassionate towards yourself. 

I have had some really interesting feedback from people about Self Love. I am intrigued to know your thoughts too. 

I would love to know that when you think of Self Love – what is the first thought/feeling you associate with the word?  What does Self Love mean to you? Comment below, or message me separately. 

Thank you – hope you can make the 21 Day Self Love Challenge – click HERE to join. 

Make 2018 about loving yourself 🙂 

 

The ‘Reiki’ Way

Having been a counsellor/therapist for many years I’ve been involved in talking therapies and psychological interventions. My therapeutic work has been underpinned by psychoanalytical thinking

My Approach

In a nutshell, I work with client’s around how their ‘past’ causes barriers in their ‘present’ based on the principle, that traumatic and distressing  feelings/memories become ‘repressed’ in our unconscious mind, in order to protect us from further emotional distress. We therefore develop defence mechanisms. These remain in tact even now, though the individual is no longer in the distressing situation anymore.

For example if as a child  you felt rejected or abandoned by a parent, you might have developed low self worth and the belief that you’re not truly loveable making it difficult for you to form trusting relationships. You may unconsciously fear your partner will also abandon you therefore your defence mechanisms might prevent you from getting ‘too close’ out of the fear of rejection. They protect you from further pain but at the same time keep you stuck!  You may also project your fear onto your partner, blame them for your unhappiness, rather than really addressing your inner feelings. 

Through counselling I help clients to work through such defences. I help them to create healthier ones instead, but to do this we need to revisit the feelings that have been repressed, in order to ‘release’ them. I combine my therapeutic work with many other techniques – I work creatively and intuitively. 

Reiki

I’d heard of Reiki, but never really knew what it was. I knew it was some sort of energy healing, but didn’t know how it worked or what it involved. In October 2016 as I felt drawn to Reiki I booked my first Reiki treatment. I was amazed, seriously to cut a long story short I’ve never looked back. The Reiki and the affirmations I did after shifted things on a deeper level.  I’ve even now trained to be a practitioner myself! I am in the process of adding this to my practice.

Reiki is a healing treatment, also promoting  stress reduction and relaxation. It is carried out by no or minimal contact by placing hands on or above areas of the body, focusing on our seven chakras. It kick starts the bodies natural healing process as “life force energy” flows through from the practitioner to the recipient. 

When I had my first treatment  (and I was a bit sceptical, but curious and open to it too) I was amazed at how much the practitioner picked up through my body! Our bodies carry our emotions. Unresolved emotions/’baggage’, which we have not dealt with or expressed may show up through tension, digestive problems, pain, illnesse etc. Our defence mechanisms (mentioned earlier) prevent us from actually working through the difficult feelings as they ‘block’ them and one way of them showing up is through our body. It begins to communicate with us ‘metaphysically’. They need to come out and be released! 

Through my counselling work, I was already helping clients to understand how their emotions were manifesting physically, however I found that Reiki just speeded this process up. From the very first healing session the body can be scanned and assessed. 

Using the abandonment example above, Reiki can pick up how the mind, heart and gut might have all been affected by past and ongoing experiences. The mind might be overthinking, the heart closed off from receiving love and the gut full of anxiety and fear – (just to give you an example). This can be identified through reiki very early on.

Holistic Approach

So I’m on a new venture!  I am excited about adding Reiki to my practice so I can provide a more holistic approach to therapy; mind, body and soul. This is really important for an overall balance to life. 

Over the last year I’ve been offering Reiki to friends and family. This has been a wonderful experience. They have greatly benefited from it in different ways  This journey has constantly reinforced my faith in Reiki too. 

Thank you for taking your time to read this, I’ll be gathering some testimonials soon to share with you. 

Sukhi