Welcome to another Self Love Challenge – 21 Days of creating and developing more of a meaningful relationship with yourself – fundamentally, the key relationship which creates the foundation to all other relationships!
DAY 1 – 20th August
So, let’s start at the beginning – before you can develop your Self Love, I want you think about, WHAT IS SELF LOVE? What does it mean? What does loving yourself look and feel like?
Before we can apply something to our life, we must understand what it is and why it is important.
So for today that’s all I want you to do, simply reflect on the concept of SELF LOVE – ask a friend or colleague; ‘ How would you define Self Love?’ Share your definitions with me! Comment below 😃
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So, how did you get on with the first day of the challenge? Click here to see how others defined Self Love and let us know how you got on too!
Day 2 – 21st August
Now that you have had time to reflect on what Self Love is and before we really get into the challenge, have a think about how much you LOVE YOURSELF. Don’t rush the answer, just ponder it throughout the day. Your initial response might be different to the response that transpires later in the day and it might be worth making note of both of those.
Think about not just loving and accepting the ‘good’ parts of you, but also the shadow parts, so this will be things like flaws, unhealthy habits, that critical inner voice perhaps, the regretful part and so on…
Do you like these parts of yourself? Is it possible to love these parts? Do you want to love them? Or do you you need to accept them? Perhaps you want to be free from them ?
With all this is mind HOW MUCH DO YOU LOVE YOURSELF…. RIGHT NOW…Scale 0 to 10 – 10 being the most.
Once you have done that, think about, how much you want to love yourself by the end of this challenge? Remember even if you move from a 6 to a 7, that is progress!
So that’s the challenge for today! How much do you love yourself, and how much do you want to love yourself by the end of the challenge… and then we will work on how you can develop that Self Love for yourself!
Have a good day 🙂
Day 3 – 22nd August
Hey guys now you have established how much you feel you love yourself, you might be surprised if you rated yourself higher or lower than expected, or you might be more assured that the score you initially gave yourself remained the same once you pondered on it during the day. You would have reflected on your ‘flaw’s and the dark and ugly bits too – we will come back to these later in the challenge.
Firstly I want you to think about one aspect of yourself that you want to embrace more of.
For instance this may be the fun, creative, adventurous or spontaneous side of you.
It might be the loving part of you, or the bit that shys away from praise, or owning your own skills and talents.
Think of the part of you that comes out only occasionally, but actually you’d love it to come out more often, knowing how wonderful you would feel if you embraced this part more.
What is it, that you’d like to embrace more?
Comment below 🙂
Day 4 – 23rd August
When we begin to focus on Self Love and make it part of everyday life, it begins to grow and get more resilient over time!
DAY 5 – 24th August
- Eat a healthy meal… drink more water
- Call a friend who lifts your spirit
- If you’re tired, have an early night
- If you really don’t feel like doing something, SAY NO
- If things feel too much STOP and give yourself a few minutes break
- Get some fresh air
- Sooth yourself with a bath, candles, relaxing music
- Focus on all the good things that happen today
- Take a lunch break, away from your desk
- Repeat an affirmation that you resonate with, ‘I deserve kindness’, OR ‘Today I am being kind to myself’, OR ‘I am surrounded with kindness from within and without’.
DAY 6 – 25th August
Hopefully you found a way and created time to be kind to yourself during Day 5 What did you do? See what others did here
Today’s exercise is a reflective one.
Just get on with your day and throughout it notice what things give you joy. When do you light up? At which point(s) do you feel the happiest?
At the end of the day look back at your day abd try to find at least 3 things or times (there might be more!) when you felt the most JOY and HAPPINESS.
Self Love is allowing yourself to feel happy. Today don’t let these moments pass you by – stop and notice.
Have a great day 🙂
DAY 7 – 26th August
So, how did Day 6 go? Did you find joy? In what things, people or moments did you experience joy?
You have reflected on a alot this week, and although we are focusing on LOVE, we can not develop this without ALSO facing our shadows, demons, lower self – whatever you want to call it. Feelings such as low self esteem, self worth, anger, jealousy, insecurity, fear, self doubt etc.
Slowly you can aim to embrace all these parts (As Day 4), by starting to face them head on rather than avoiding them (which is what we naturally do, in order to protect ourselves from experiencing uncomfortable feelings).
So for TODAY, give yourself acknowledgement for sticking to this challenge so far! WELL DONE! Continue to NOTICE JOY today but this time also notice when a SHADOW TYPE OF FEELING emerges. Then in your mind (or out loud) say:
‘I am patiently beginning to love you more each day’
Keep repeating this until the feeling shifts, or reduces… even if slightly. Then continue with your day with the concept of Joy at the forefront of your mind again.
Have a great day and keep spreading the love 🙂